Two persons deleted me from their Friendster accounts the past two months which caught me by surprise. One did so mysteriously, the other told me why. I really don’t think I should be losing sleep over some people who have profound attitude problems but this is exactly the reason why I think Friendster sucks in the first place. Why should they inform me about the new features they’ve added, who’s uploaded new photos and who are celebrating their birthdays hhetcetera, but leave me at a loss as to when I’ve been removed from somebody’s circle. Do the admin guys really assume that Friendster members are so juvenile they wouldn’t take this bad news kindly if it was delivered to them straight in the face?
I don’t pretend to be Miss Congeniality but what do ex-Friendsters get by un-Friendster-ing me as well as others before me, in the absence of a sane and mature reason? Being the pragmatic person that I am, I believe that people who expand their network and gain buddies (rather than enemies) will achieve more in life… kailangan pa bang ispelingin ito (do I need to spell it out?)? Unless of course the object of my hatred has done something that’s below the belt, such as what some evil ex-friends have done to me in the past, then I take the calculated risk of isolating them.
Back to what we were talking about, the first person to un-Friendster me was MBA stude, the guy I’ve been seeing for months. I was Friendster-surfing one day when I realized I could not access his profile. So I YM him, almost frantically: “Why did you remove me from Friendster?? ” And the reply came a few days later: ” I saw you with another guy..”
Duh? I almost fell off my chair. Truth is, anybody can see me with another guy since I have quite a few platonic male friends and male business acquiantances I often go dining with. I was 101% sure that he did not catch me in the incriminating act of holding hands or doing PDA with somebody. But since I was 99% certain that he saw me on an official date, all I can do was admit to the deed, that yes… he did see me with another guy. I just thought it was time to cut off communication with somebody who saw me once a month, texted once a week, chatted with sporadically and yet expected total fidelity. The friggin’ double standard is the reason why I don’t like to date “narrow-minded” Filipino men, but that’s another story. MBA Stude would text and YM me again but what’s the point? The moral lesson here is that you cannot be friends again with anybody you have so rudely un-Friendstered.
As a consequence, I’ve limited my Friendster profile to my first-degree friends and I really won’t scramble to add any more. It’s good enough that I have my high school buddies, blogkada, a few decent workmates and a few best friends. Frankly, am overaged for this stuff; it is my son who should feel at home here in the next few years (hehe). I still think it’s a glorified dating agency (or social nuisance, as the case maybe), prostitution joint ( what with all those x-rated pictures) and certified poster site for narcissists who think it is the high point of their earthly existence to have 98 forcibly-extracted testimonials, 500 friends and a second account for another 500 friends to boot (mag-barangay chairman na lang kayo!)