Un-Friendstered! & Other Lapses in Etiquette
Two persons deleted me from their Friendster accounts the past two months which caught me by surprise. One did so mysteriously, the other told me why. I really don’t think I should be losing sleep over some people who have profound attitude problems but this is exactly the reason why I think Friendster sucks in the first place. Why should they inform me about the new features they’ve added, who’s uploaded new photos and who are celebrating their birthdays hhetcetera, but leave me at a loss as to when I’ve been removed from somebody’s circle. Do the admin guys really assume that Friendster members are so juvenile they wouldn’t take this bad news kindly if it was delivered to them straight in the face?
I don’t pretend to be Miss Congeniality but what do ex-Friendsters get by un-Friendster-ing me as well as others before me, in the absence of a sane and mature reason? Being the pragmatic person that I am, I believe that people who expand their network and gain buddies (rather than enemies) will achieve more in life… kailangan pa bang ispelingin ito (do I need to spell it out?)? Unless of course the object of my hatred has done something that’s below the belt, such as what some evil ex-friends have done to me in the past, then I take the calculated risk of isolating them.
Back to what we were talking about, the first person to un-Friendster me was MBA stude, the guy I’ve been seeing for months. I was Friendster-surfing one day when I realized I could not access his profile. So I YM him, almost frantically: “Why did you remove me from Friendster?? ” And the reply came a few days later: ” I saw you with another guy..”
Duh? I almost fell off my chair. Truth is, anybody can see me with another guy since I have quite a few platonic male friends and male business acquiantances I often go dining with. I was 101% sure that he did not catch me in the incriminating act of holding hands or doing PDA with somebody. But since I was 99% certain that he saw me on an official date, all I can do was admit to the deed, that yes… he did see me with another guy. I just thought it was time to cut off communication with somebody who saw me once a month, texted once a week, chatted with sporadically and yet expected total fidelity. The friggin’ double standard is the reason why I don’t like to date “narrow-minded” Filipino men, but that’s another story. MBA Stude would text and YM me again but what’s the point? The moral lesson here is that you cannot be friends again with anybody you have so rudely un-Friendstered.
As a consequence, I’ve limited my Friendster profile to my first-degree friends and I really won’t scramble to add any more. It’s good enough that I have my high school buddies, blogkada, a few decent workmates and a few best friends. Frankly, am overaged for this stuff; it is my son who should feel at home here in the next few years (hehe). I still think it’s a glorified dating agency (or social nuisance, as the case maybe), prostitution joint ( what with all those x-rated pictures) and certified poster site for narcissists who think it is the high point of their earthly existence to have 98 forcibly-extracted testimonials, 500 friends and a second account for another 500 friends to boot (mag-barangay chairman na lang kayo!)
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geez. umm couldn’t he like talk to you why he planned on not seeing you again? or why he’s about to un-friendster you? i mean a real Man would do that. boggles the mind. i hardly lon on there. i just use it to keep in touch with my cousins in ‘Pinas.
He’s a bad loser,huh..he’s pathetic..what about the other one,why did she/he un-friendster you? (if you don’t mind answering this..haha! got me curious)
I used to have an account there but I realized guys lifts pics there,so there,i deleted my account! i should have deleted my pics only,huh?!
ajay,
i like you when you are mataray. Your statement, magbarangay
chairman na lang kayo is priceless. hehehe
Naku nahigh-blood si Ajay…pero tama naman yan, you’ve got a valid point. Cheer up na
))kasi it’s his loss not yours. Pero nainis din ako dun ha!
is that guy for real? well, Ajay, you are better off without someone who does not even have the balls to say it right.
Ju, there are a lot of weirdos around… unfortunately, you met one of them. Like Sienna says: Cheer up!
BTW, according to Jing Magat, Vangie is flying to Manila on 31 October.
this is an additional reason (one of many actually) for not jumping into the friendster bandwagon! pero i might consider it now. will take your cue; i.e. limit the circle to first degree friends! basta! just cheer up!
Ajay, did you say that you don’t like to date Filipino men (or did you mean in a single noun man) because they are all narrow minded. is this true ba? enlighten me on this subject. I hope you find somebody better than the other subject
hi ajay…u cn be scary wen ur upset.. forget about the loser hu tuk you out his friendster.. hope ur in a better mood already
Ay kababawan on that guy’s side. Ang Friendster dapat hindi kina-career.
Unfortunately, he’s not a real man, dexie. The last time I looked, his balls were missing…LOL.
Sachi, you should have deleted your pics only para naging Friendster kita. The second person who deleted me was a girl from my company who was either paranoid, galit sa mundo or simply a jerk.
With the way Friendster is turning out to be a pseudo/compulsory popularity contest, dapat na ngang maglaban-laban sa pagiging barangay chairman ng barrio kampupot ang mga tao dito cath, bwahahaha
Thanks for Commisserating Siena *hugs* Salamat din for remembering me on the mooncake fest
I’ll email you, Anna Lyn:)
Believe me, AnP, there are many guys like that who do the darndest things..
Owen, good luck sa Friendster-ing mo, haha.
Calipinoy, I didn’t say I didn’t like Filipino men collectively. I think men will be men regardless of whether they are Italian, American, Malaysian or Pinoy.It’s just that I don’t have a good experience with Filipino men. I have to admit that when they are in their best elements, Pinoy guys can be the sweetest. But I look for somebody who is decent, broad-minded and cosmopolitan. It’s not cosmopolitan and decent when they STALK me, give death threats, go into jealous fits, openly womanize and/or break up with me through text/Friendster. All these I have experienced with Pinoy men here in the Philippines. Oh, the trauma!
Dessa, natawa ako. Sorry if I scared you. I didn’t mean to. I can be so strong in my words even if I don’t really mean it.
Korek ka dyan Toni: “ang Friendster dapat hindi kina-career.” But obviously some people have made a career out of it, sabi ko nga they’ve “made it the high point of their earthly existence.” I envy them for having the time:)
heheh, i think the new features that friendster implemented only made it look closer to myspace… i hated myspace kasi panay mga lowflying males, females and everything in between ang nandoon, tapos kinocustomize pa nila yung pages nila, WTF?!?!?! i don’t care if you can cut and paste HTML into your profile… it sucks na andaming movies ang lumalabas… myspace is social networking spam
now friendster is slutenizing their interface… i think friendster is turning into a spam machine itself… too bad kasi i’ve been a member since nov 2002
Hi Kim. “Social networking spam..” hmm, that’s the word.
LOL, sorry, ajay, alam ko mainit ang ulo mo pero natawa naman ako dito — i am so out-of-the loop when it comes to cyber-friendships, nakaka-enlighten ang post mo! i have a friendster account but don’t use it kasi unang punta ko pa lang d’on natakot ako sa mga pics ng mga babae na halos mala-porn na!!! baka blessing in disguise ‘to for you.
I have learned in life that what one says to narrow-minded people (assuming that your accounts are accurate- haha of course, they are) is a full-of-conviction-good-riddance!
Wait, friendster has x-rated pictures? Can I text you to ask how to access this? hahahaha
joke lang yung huli ha.
Hi Stef. Yeah, better for us to concentrate on our kiddies and food blogging…:)
Friendster Rolly: just a tip – I got to peek at the nude profiles care of my male friendsters, hehe
Ang puso, AJ, and puso….
Hi there – I’m a reporter for the Wall Street Journal in New York City. I’m writing a story about how Frienster and Myspace are used to communicate during breakups, and I saw your posting about this…that someone deleted you! I was wondering if we can correspond over email about it, and if you’d be willing to be interviewed for my story. You can reach me at amol_sharma@hotmail.com
thanks much