There were all those “virgin” stories I heard growing up and my impression is that virginity was more of an ideal rather than a reality.
There were these male buddies of mine who turned cold on their girlfriends after realizing that they were no longer “virgins.”
And a close friend who recounts with disgust at every opportunity her first experience with her male neighbor who “disappeared” just as soon as he got her virginity, at the age of 18.
Or how about this former colleague of mine who never failed to announce to the male crew at the cruise ship that we were working that she was a Filipina “virgin?” Never mind if I cringed at the thought since I very well knew she had left a husband and two children back home!!
Virginity, what’s the big deal?
Definitely, it was a big deal to me back in my innocent days when I hang on to it for dear life amid the come-ons and advances of my admirers. I lost The Virginity relatively late when I was approaching my mid 20s and well into my fifth boyfriend. I remember that there was nothing to be enjoyed about it .. the hurt and the pain, though they did say the hurt and the pain would transform to extreme pleasure after a few times of trying. Hmm, totoo nga 😛
but I really wouldn’t enjoy sex for all it’s worth until a decade later.
Of course the painful episode would have turned into a boring ending if I married The Devirginator but I chose not to. I was even engaged again to somebody after that. I guess plain old peer pressure made me lose my virginity at an age when I was ripe enough to vote, live alone and ovulate. But if I have to advise my daughters today, I’d tell them to keep their virtue if they like,or lose it, provided that they are ready for it and not let anybody – much less their peers – decide what’s good for their body or their future.
Virginity after all doesn’t ensure everlasting happiness. Keeping ourselves pure presupposes that our partners will also be loyal, faithful, devoted and will do the most pleasurable things to us in bed.
But it doesn’t always happen that way.
Look what happened to the “virginal” Princess Diana who had to contend with the worldly and divorced Camilla all throughout her short married life..
and the disillusionment possibly faced by some virgin brides who have to contend with a four-inch dick and/or a sexual dysfunction during their honeymoon and for the rest of their lives!?
The crux of the matter is that all virgin brides deserve to marry the best lovers of their lives.
Without having to compare the availability of good-performing bananas around.