Watched Brokeback Mountain last Sunday and Crash scored an Academy Award upset since. I have not watched the latter yet butI remember the former for its memorable line “I wish I knew how to quit you.” Hmmm, how many times have we said this to our most tempting vices, ranging from coffee, to cigarets to casinos or simply that beguiling lover who rocked our world?
I am sure a lot of straight heteros had funny feelings watching the movie but since gay relationships are a reality in this world, there’s nothing preventing us from looking at “the other side.” Although I supposed that Brokeback was more of a long-running melodrama on the dynamics of a passionate yet forbidden gay love, the movie can be credited for deviating from the usual “screaming faggot” stereotypes. The lead characters were after all a couple of cowboys who fell in love while on a herding expedition. This has made me wonder how many of the “real men” out there who have normal families are gays and carrying the burden??
Which brings us to the hypothetical question: if you were married to a man and found out he was gay, how would you take it?
My answer is that I will still be committed. After all, I have married him and so I will let him be. Surely, this person has outstanding qualities which I have learned to love, regardless of whether he was gay or not.
Provided of course that he is discreet and not kissing his lover under the staircase, as in the movie. But a woman who takes stock of the situation and then accepts it should realize that this is no longer a normal relationship, therefore has an uncertain future and she should be prepared for the worst.
Second query: what if you find out your son was gay, how would you take it?
I will probably be unnerved at first but then, being my beloved son, I will just tell him “Go ahead son, take fashion design if you must. Pursue your passions wherever it leads you.” (Hah! Thankfully my son doesn’t want to have anything to do with his sisters’ dolls so at least I can heave a sigh of relief there!)
I dunno, I am probably too much of a liberal and a homophile to care. I’ve got a few good gay friends and I love them so dearly. After all it was from them that I learned how to cook my first carbonara, execute a mind-altering
blowjob, do the helicopter technique, master the male anatomy and perfect other frivolities that are not even worthy of seeing print here, LOL.
Jake Gyllenhaal and Heath Ledger should be lauded for taking on otherwise difficult roles. In the beginning of the movie, I was actually choosing on who among Jake (Jack) and Heath (Ennis) was more delicious. But then, as their characters sank on me and the movie wore on, my dear Jake assumed a terrifyingly gay aura and I no longer desired him as before. Funny.
And this is why I said the movie left me in a daze. I am just glad that being gay is no longer taboo in our present world. May they find true happiness:)