I was a non-OC bride and just left it to God to make our wedding come true:) Never mind if I singlehandedly took over the planning, coordinating and implementing our wedding. A few months before, hubby made it clear that he was willing to spend on a wedding planner and I said no, we only had a small wedding and I could do it on my own. Never thought it would suck the life out of me, or it would be the cause of some arguments because of my mood swings. “Non-OC” does not always equal “non-stressed out.”
While it appeared that the major details were already ironed out, it was the last-minute details that got me. I thought I didn’t have decent pics for the bridal preps because instead of facing the make-up artist, I was writing the reception program outline an hour before. My manicure and pedicure was also done four hours before, and on the big day itself, there I was in the bowels of Binondo buying my son’s camisa de chino. I still regret that we weren’t able to print out our missalette, even if a well-meaning friend shared with us theirs.
Still, all’s well that ends well. Funny how some betrothed couple can fuss and plan 360 days in advance about something that happens only in one day, but that’s the way it is. In our case, it was only 59 days preparation time or so 🙁
The one thing that got us was getting all the necessary paperwork ready, since hubby was based in a warzone (!!!) and could only collaborate with me long-distance. The paperwork and approval of the Church was truly the most stressful part. So mentally torturing that it took away whatever joyous thoughts I had of getting wed. The service rendered by church staff was excellent, but it was simply nerve-wracking to think whether they will approve of doing a ceremony on us or not. Being a foreigner, hubs had to seek approval from the Chancery of the Archdiocese of Manila and they asked for additional documents from him since he was divorced. You can just imagine our relief when they gave an affirmative word ONE WEEK before the wedding 😛
It was only then that I could finalize the invites and send it out. Sounds crazy when you think about it but true. Common sense told us that we could scout for another church denomination, but it would have been short of heresy since we were both Catholics, and a civil wedding was the last option. Life is short, this is it, and simply had to hope for the best! Am glad, at least for this non-OC bride, that the best came true.